I've had a lot of things on my mind lately. Life is so great ;) I just can't help but watch others and wonder why they can't see life the way I do. I have such a hard time listening and watching other people who are negative. I definitely am not perfect and I have my moments of negativity, but I think less and less often as I "grow up". The first couple of years after Jeremy and I were married we definitely had a lot to learn! We argued A LOT! I noticed everything he did wrong and pointed them out, or got quiet and mad about things he didn't even know he did wrong!
At some point I read a great article in the Jan. 2005 Ensign called "Falling out of love... and climbing back in". It changed my life. I realized that if I wanted to have a good relationship with my husband I had to change myself! I really worked on not sulking about things that Jeremy didn't even know about. Talking to him calmly if something was bothering me. Telling him how much I love him and thank you for all the little things he did, and most of all doing the things I needed to do to be closer to my Heavenly Father. I have always been active. As in I go to church. (Except for a few months when we were first married. He didn't want to go and so I didn't go either. I learned quick that I didn't like it).
What I realized (only like a year or so ago), what I needed to do was do all the "Sunday School Answers". I needed to be closer to my Heavenly Father and earn the help I needed from the Holy Ghost. I needed to read my scriptures, pray (on my knees!), and have family home evening and scripture study with my family!
I have noticed a huge difference not only in my life; my personal happiness, but in my family too! Jer and I get along so good! No, we're not perfect. We never will be, but we can solve issues so much better and we have issues way less! We have had, almost ;), consistent FHE for almost a year, and we have read scriptures and the friend daily with only a few misses also. I definitely feel opposition sometimes. Satan pushes us hard to argue and for me to yell, etc. But we feel the benefits so much more.
The whole reason though, this has been so much on my mind is how much I have seen with people in my life (close family and friends) the sadness that comes from not doing these things, and being negative. People are going to hurt you. You are going to be annoyed by people. The key is not lowering yourself to their level!! I have had to remind my kids lately that talking bad about ANYONE is not ok! No matter what they have done! And if someone is talking negative about someone else to them, they should ask them not to, change the subject or leave the situation. It is a lot harder as an adult though. Especially if it's someone close to you.
I also feel so sad when people question ANYTHING the church tells us. I have a strong testimony of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, which means I believe President Thomas S. Monson is the Prophet of God. That means that anything he, or his servants; ex. members of the Seventy or Stake Presidencies or Bishoprics, is from God! Everything! You don't question that! Heavenly Father will not lead you wrong. Yes people are imperfect and sometimes they won't do things right. That is when you listen to the Holy Ghost and everything will be ok.
Phew. I feel so much better I got that off my mind ;).
On a more exciting note:
Kylee tried out for and got into a play this weekend!!! She will be part of the Ensemble (the background singers etc.) in Alice in Wonderland in November! Till then it will be a lot of practicing and some fun times ;) Summer is really excited to try out next year! Let me know if anyone is interested in coming to see it!
P.S. School starts on Monday! I'm excited, but can't believe it!
At some point I read a great article in the Jan. 2005 Ensign called "Falling out of love... and climbing back in". It changed my life. I realized that if I wanted to have a good relationship with my husband I had to change myself! I really worked on not sulking about things that Jeremy didn't even know about. Talking to him calmly if something was bothering me. Telling him how much I love him and thank you for all the little things he did, and most of all doing the things I needed to do to be closer to my Heavenly Father. I have always been active. As in I go to church. (Except for a few months when we were first married. He didn't want to go and so I didn't go either. I learned quick that I didn't like it).
What I realized (only like a year or so ago), what I needed to do was do all the "Sunday School Answers". I needed to be closer to my Heavenly Father and earn the help I needed from the Holy Ghost. I needed to read my scriptures, pray (on my knees!), and have family home evening and scripture study with my family!
I have noticed a huge difference not only in my life; my personal happiness, but in my family too! Jer and I get along so good! No, we're not perfect. We never will be, but we can solve issues so much better and we have issues way less! We have had, almost ;), consistent FHE for almost a year, and we have read scriptures and the friend daily with only a few misses also. I definitely feel opposition sometimes. Satan pushes us hard to argue and for me to yell, etc. But we feel the benefits so much more.
The whole reason though, this has been so much on my mind is how much I have seen with people in my life (close family and friends) the sadness that comes from not doing these things, and being negative. People are going to hurt you. You are going to be annoyed by people. The key is not lowering yourself to their level!! I have had to remind my kids lately that talking bad about ANYONE is not ok! No matter what they have done! And if someone is talking negative about someone else to them, they should ask them not to, change the subject or leave the situation. It is a lot harder as an adult though. Especially if it's someone close to you.
I also feel so sad when people question ANYTHING the church tells us. I have a strong testimony of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, which means I believe President Thomas S. Monson is the Prophet of God. That means that anything he, or his servants; ex. members of the Seventy or Stake Presidencies or Bishoprics, is from God! Everything! You don't question that! Heavenly Father will not lead you wrong. Yes people are imperfect and sometimes they won't do things right. That is when you listen to the Holy Ghost and everything will be ok.
Phew. I feel so much better I got that off my mind ;).
On a more exciting note:
Kylee tried out for and got into a play this weekend!!! She will be part of the Ensemble (the background singers etc.) in Alice in Wonderland in November! Till then it will be a lot of practicing and some fun times ;) Summer is really excited to try out next year! Let me know if anyone is interested in coming to see it!
P.S. School starts on Monday! I'm excited, but can't believe it!
2 comments:
That's an amazing post. You are SO right Celeste. You have always been one of the STRONGEST women of my acquaintance. I love you to death (or for eternity).
Yeay for Kylee. Way to go chica!
Celeste, I enjoyed your thoughts. It's great to be reminded of those things that we need to do to be closer to the Lord. Thanks for helping me remember! :) It was good to see you are your cute family this weekend. Sure Love you!!!
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